The way parents react and respond to their child determine their parenting styles. It is your parenting style that has a strong influence on how your child would be as an adult. No two sets of parents are the same, but there are certain common patterns that could make them fall under the same parenting style. Studies suggest that broadly, there are four parenting styles. Do you know what is your parenting style or are you yet to figure out? Read on…
“Do as I say!”
With their heart in the right place, these parents want to be in control of their child’s development, growth, and life. The ground rules are laid, the orders are given, and there’s no room for the rules to be broken. Here, the parent believes that the child must do as they say because they know what’s the best for the child.
There’s almost no room for negotiation and the child’s got to do what the child’s got to do.
This might lead to very less communication between the parent and the child, which may be unhealthy. Authoritarian parents have high expectations out of their child and want them to excel at everything.Children who grow up in an authoritarian environment grow up to be more disciplined an efficient, but they aren’t given the opportunity to hone their own creativity and use their own discretion. This may lead to an inability in taking up leadership roles and taking control of their own lives.
“Do what you want!”
They are the exact opposite of Authoritarian. There are no ground rules laid because they believe in self-regulation. The child is expected to ascertain what is right for them, regulate their own behaviour, and become independent. These parents have almost no expectations from their child and are lenient. They are loving and nurturing and often times, such parents avoid confrontation, which might turn out to detrimental to the child’s growth. They are not indifferent but want the child to enjoy what they are doing without any pressure. They want to befriend the child and they go an extra mile for that. Children who grow up in such environments may grow up to think that they will always have their way and might land up being rather disappointed and even irrational
“This is what is right for you, but you can do what you want to!”
These parents strive to strike the right kind of balance between being authoritarian and permissive. They retain authority and control but also allow the child to make their own life choices. They lay the ground rules, but also encourage communication as they are willing to listen to their child’s argument. They do have high expectations out of their child, but they allow the child to fail and learn from their own mistakes. Children who grow up under authoritative parents develop a stronger sense of independence, but they are not the reckless. They are responsible and make calculated decisions. They are competent and content individuals.
“I don’t care!”
The term explains it all. There is no give and take involved here. No ground rules and no expectations whatsoever. Such parents do not tend to prioritize their child’s development, they’re negligent and offer very little affection. These parents love their children but they are probably going through testing times themselves and are unable to look beyond their own lives. Children who grow up in such an environment tend to feel unloved, have low self-esteem issues, and other behavioural issues.
We hope this article has been helpful. However, before you jump to any conclusions, it is recommended that you visit a counsellor to ascertain your parenting style and seek appropriate guidance to make changes that are best for your child’s development. If you have any feedback or questions, please leave them in the comments section. Keep following us on Curiositi for more interesting and informative blogs on parenting, child development, learning, and academics!
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